Tonight, I will attempt to communicate with my husband, for the UPTEENTH time. Even though he probably won't understand where I am coming from, or comprehend one word I am saying, I am trying yet again.
What is it about love that compels us to keep on trying, and never give up, no matter how hopeless it seems? Why do we feel the need to reconcile, make amends, make peace, if you will, even when we feel we have been wronged, don't feel that we are getting what we feel we need or deserve, or just don't see the point of all our efforts? Why are we so willing to forgive our children, and repeat ourselves to them over and over again, but aren't so willing to do the same for our spouses?
I guess it's because we feel that in our kids, there is still hope. Hope that they will be better people, better than us, and have richer, fuller, happier lives.
I don't know what the future holds for Matthew and I. But I guess putting my faith and our future in the hands of a God who doesn't care to tell me what He is doing, or how, but to just trust that He's on it, and that He knows what's best, is the driving force that keeps me from giving up. My hope is in Him, so I MUST believe that things will work out for GOOD. And whatever the end result, it is, ultimately, HIS will.
Tonight, I am surrendering my need for control, and trusting that God is in control.
Adrian
5 comments:
I am going to pray that you continue to stay in the Word and believe. Things are going to work out the way that they are suppose too. Whether we step in and try to change things or not. Normally when we step in we make it worst. The big plan is not ours. The walking and believing is ours. Take care. Tish
I hope you can talk with him and work it out. I know how hard it is believe me. I'll be thinking of you. Prayers and hugs to you.
gdlywom - I enjoyed reading your comments on marriage. Your commitment to your husband is the missing ingredient in so many marriages today. The common modus operandi of married people today is 1) My marriage will make me happy and fulfilled for the rest of my life, 2) If my marriage does not make my happy and fulfilled I have not found my "soul mate." 3) If I have not found my "soul mate" I need to get out of my marriage and find my "soul mate." I don't believe in the concept of soul mates. When God said He hated divorce, the society to which he said it practiced arranged marriages. Even in an arranged marriage God required His people to be faithful and to stay married. In other words, "Work it out through love!" I am glad to see you are doing that!
I am an army chaplain and do a good bit of marriage counseling. I was interested in how things went with your husband. Poor communication in marriage is a very common complaint among those who seek counseling. I have studied much to learn how to help couples improve their communication. If you would give me the chance I would enjoy corresponding with you about how you are communicating with your husband and perhaps help you communicate in an effective way, which will greatly improve your marriage.
I don't use AOL anymore, so if you would like I can be emailed at darren.chester@gmail.com.
praying for you!!! Men just do not think the way we do. I was upset with Ernie earlier this week. He did not understand how saying " I should have handled that differently" is not an apology and it was not telling me he was wrong. BUT according to him it was! He also did not understand why I didn't run to get one of the kids meds refilled when he told me they were going to be running low. She ran out the next morning. I was supposed to understand that he meant she was going to be out of the med after she took her next dose!!! oh, well!
Becky
Prayers for you and hoping this has all worked itself out. Keep on loving and forgiving and doing your very best! Love n Hugs,
Lisa
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