Now, y'all know how long I have been trying to resolve an issue between my husband and I. Well, FINALLY, he got it. It's like, all of a sudden, he had an epiphany, and immediately went about resolving the matter. OMG, HOW LONG and HOW PATIENT have I been?!? I mean, to me, this wasn't a difficult issue at all. But apparently, it was very hard for him to understand. But, Thank God, he got it! I wonder what happened? What opened his eyes? Which of the ten conversations we've had really hit the nail on his head? Boy, I'd like to be a fly on the wall right about now! LOL Or maybe, one of his brain cells........LOL
My goodness! You know, I am beginning to realize that I have NEVER been this patient with my husband, or this willing to have empathy for him and work with him, to this degree. I was like, you've got three strikes. If you didn't get it after strike three, then oh, well! That attitude worked in New Orleans, where we had so many distractions, that we didn't feel a need to really work on our marriage. But now, we just CANNOT do that. He and I are literally on our own here, and we need each other. We need each other for far more than just sex. We must work together for the benefit of the entire family. I need him just as much as he needs me. We need one another's support and strengths. We must pool our resources together. Living as separate entities just isn't going to cut it anymore. We can no longer live totally independent lives. Intimacy, communication, trust, and teamwork are absolutely essential. He must "have my back," and I must have his. Without that camaraderie, we will not make it.
But, geez. There MUST be a better, more efficient way of resolving issues! That simple, yet very important issue almost took FOREVER to be resolved, with a lot of praying on my part. I almost lost hope, but today, God showed me, yet again, that:
1) He is listening;
2) Nothing is impossible for him; and
3) No matter how insignificant we think a matter is, rather, that the matter is too simple for God to deal with, that He is concerned about EVERYTHING affecting us, even the small things.
Thanks to all of you out there who read my blog, who prayed with me, and who left encouraging words. I am so grateful for each and every one of you. I say what I say here, from the heart, because I wish that more people who are married and weathering the storms with their spouses would speak out more and help us; I wish that they would share their words of wisdom, helping us "young-uns" keep on truckin'. Since I haven't seen many do this, I share, with the hope that someone reading about my situation who may be experiencing something similar will not lose hope that things will get better.
Adrian
4 comments:
Adrian,
This is such a beautiful entry! I wish more women grasped what you are talking about here. It is through prayer we really do come to see God's work in every little area of our lives. I was thrilled to see you write this entry because I know you have really been grappling with this. Just keep on doing what you have been doing and it all works out in the end somehow. Don't forget to remind me of this truth when I am feeling down. I need to come back here and read this in the future!! Love n Hugs,
Lisa
What a good entry. I am so sorry I haven't been by your journal in a while. I just don't have the time that I used to TO journal and I've thought about giving up doing it altogether. I'm glad you and your husband are coming to a meeting of the minds. Very good news. Y'all keep doing what your doing. Have a great Friday.
Hugs, Barb
Yeah I'm so happy that he finally is getting it. Your right you two need each other. I have prayed for you two and just hope you two continue on the right path for you marriage. Hugs and love to you.
I'm glad that you and your husband have worked things out. its true, often other things in life distract you from the truth, you put off dealing with it. and you get support from other places, whilst there's nothing wrong with getting support from family or friends, you're absolutely right, he must have your back and you his. your first port of call.
Shermeen xx
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