Tessa made a VERY VALID POINT; it's one thing for a total stranger to come into your home and violate your child. It is quite another when the perpetrator is a relative, spouse, or family friend. My plea to this is NEVER second-guess what your child tells you happens between them and a relative, spouse or friend. This is a fatal mistake many families make; keeping this offense "secret", being ashamed, and never letting anyone know. Whenever I was molested or violated when a kid (it happened several times), I told my mother, and she believed me THE FIRST TIME! We were ostracized, and my mom was routinely ridiculed by the rest of our family members, but my mom cared enough about me to safeguard me and keep me protected. Later in life, I found out that the same relatives who persecuted my mom were hiding far worse secrets of their own. Where the molestation never got past first base with me, those same relatives experienced home plate, and overtime!!!!!! So parents, don't be afraid to stand up for your children! The fate of their future lies in your hands!!!!!!! Don't be afraid to stand up and speak out, you are doing THE RIGHT THING!!!!! It's YOUR child, and how dare ANYONE.......I don't care how handsome or wealthy the man (or woman) is, take their innocence from them! They aren't ENTITLED to it; that's the key word here......relatives, friends, teachers, have an attitude of ENTITLEMENT.......God help me......to these kids' innocence. This is an evil spirit of perversion that has plagued this nation, and Tessa is right; we must pray for these people. Pray and do everything humanly possible to protect our kids.
Adrian
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I just wrote about this in my journal. I have been in this situation. I am so glad that you wrote about this.
Amy
parents should trust and listen to their kids no matter how young (like your mother trusted you). then, it is possible to take action and get to the bottom of things. once i have kids, i will definitely keep your words of wisdom in mind.
sry i took some time off on my blog, but im going to try and write more often again. hope you swing by when you get the chance.
http://journals.aol.com/newwinvu/newwin
As well as parents trusting their children, they need to talk to them about what inappropriate and let them know that they can come to them if they feel uneasy about an adult.
very serious issue, but i'm glad that you've brought it up!!!
At least in the US you have access to where these people live in your area, we don't have that in the UK!
Shermeen xx
http://journals.aol.co.uk/shermeen0621/PublicThoughts/
<font color="red">It is very important that as parents we trust what our children tell us. It is very rare that a child will lie about being molested or sexually abused. That is why I have always taught my children inappropriate contact is anything that makes THEM feel uncomfortable! So, they feel empowered to know their feelings matter. I never pressured them to give relatives hugs and kisses, so as not to offend or hurt said relatives' feelings--I want them to know their feelings count. So, anything that makes them uncomfortable is a no no. Some of my relatives have gotten pissed about it, but I don't care. My children are my blessing from God and it is my duty to rear them to the best of my abilities to be healthy happy people.</font>
I think all parents should listen to the kids. You never know who could do something.
She's a pretty smart cookie. Sorry I haven't been by lately I was messing around with my alerts and somehow turned a bunch of them off! I guess. I mean it couldn't be AOL's mess up right? LOL Hope all is well with you and yours.
Barb
You telling that story makes me remember a girl that I went to school with. She was raised by her dad for a short period because her mom died, during that time her uncle, yes uncle, raped her, not molested but raped. I can't remember if she told anybody or not but that still shows how you really can't trust anybody.
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