Does anyone out there know someone who is so, well, superficial, that they just cannot go deeper with you, or appreciate you for who you are, no matter what?
You know; those people who, no matter what you have accomplished, done or didn't do, focus so much on your faults, failures and mistakes that they are never able to be happy for you, encourage you, or see your strengths? They are never able to allow themselves to see anything worth any value in you? They manage to bring you down even further when you speak to them? As far as you are concerned, there is no forgiveness allowed? Anyone out there knows someone like that?
You know them......those folks who, when you bring this issue to their attention, DENY that they are even doing it, or that it is even happening?!? They make you feel like YOU are crazy, and that you are just "imagining" things? They always send you home, or away from them, feeling like maybe you ARE taking yourself a little too seriously.......
But then they turn around and do it AGAIN. And AGAIN....and AGAIN...........
It hurts my heart to see someone like this. Of course, it hurts even more to be closely related to someone like this. This type of person hurts people (or, in my case, me), so much, and she doesn't even know, denies, or isn't even aware that she is doing it.
I don't know what to do about this person. I guess I will just continue to pray. God knows I cannot afford to leave her alone completely; but for God's sake, she is such a BURDEN to talk to or to be around!!!!!!
10 comments:
I so know that type of person
Becky
Yep, I deal with someone like that every single day. Burden is a good word to describe it.
hugs
Lahoma
yep I know someone like that, no matter what they say, I'm just nice to them. I refuse to lower myself to be like that. I hope it all works out for you.
Yes, indeed. I do know someone like that and I have decided not to lower myself to her standards. Yes, it hurt but the problem is hers and NOT mine and I refuse to allow it to become mine!
No matter what good I may do is ignored. My faults are iewed instead. No matter what I accomplish - someone else has done better.
Actually, I think those kinds of people exhibit what is controlling behavior. But no more - I've had enough. I avoid her but when I see her I remain polite. I REFUSE to become like that.
Your major accomplishments - as I see it - have been to remain sane during very trying times. You are a Katrina Victim. A survivor. You will manage to survive this as well.
Go for it Wonder Woman!!!
Hugz,
Dianna
Sometimes when there are negative people in our lives who only serve to bring us down, it is better not to have them in our lives. But it sounds like even if you wanted to do this, you can't because of the relationship you two have. Are you praying that this person will change? because if she doesn't even see a problem, then its very unlikely she will.
Sometimes we just have to take these people for who they are, accept them for who they are.
Shermeen xx
http://journals.aol.co.uk/shermeen0621/PublicThoughts/
Sorry to hear of your experience with this person. I do hope that this person's heart will soften and be able to feel love, experience life, and give love.
Barb
Hey thanks for always stopping by my journal! I really appreciate the supportive comments! I will start commenting more I promise! Just wanted to thank you again! xoxo Nikki
ADRIAN,
GIRL YES!!! I KNOW THE TYPE AND WISH THAT LIFE WAS BETTER FOR THEM SO THEY WOULDNT HAVE TO BE SOME DAG ON BITTER AND NEGATIVE....
KEEP PRAYING....
WHEW! I feel ya! Foreal!
Hi! I already sent a reply to one of your entries, but somehow I missed this one. I don't normally seek out people like that, even if they are related. This person is probably hurting on the inside, it's really hard to tell. I think you are right about praying and continuing to pray for him/her. I'm sorry that you are having to deal with this person's attitude, just remember that the enemy is the devil. He seeks to "steal, kill, and destroy", refuse to be his victim. I know that words hurt, in fact I wrote a blog about it earlier today. However, when we recognize the enemy we have the advantage. Some people will love us and some will not. Surprisingly! Sometime's that very person is the one that will help you, when other's can't or won't. I've had that happen before.
Tessa
"And let us not grow weary while doing good,
for in due season we shall reap if we
do not lose heart."
Galatians 6:9
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