BACK TO NORMAL (SERIOUS POST, FOLKS; FOR REAL!!!)

Alright, alright......time to put away that Easter candy, get rid of those pastel colors, hang the Easter dresses in the closet....and GET BACK TO WORK!!! LOL LOL LOL.......

  

I have a busy day already!  I have to clean my floors, do laundry, make groceries, go to the gym, and prepare my credit report for Thursday.

  

After doing a little investigating of my own, it seems that many of the accounts shown on my credit report are duplicate accounts listed under different companies, or paid but still listed as a charge-off!  Many of them have been paid in full by Matthew or I while the last company or collections agency held the account!  I have requested an investigation by the credit bureau, in the hopes that they are able to remove some of those paid and closed accounts, since they have been paid while with a different agency.  I also saw that I am able to request that an account that has been closed or hasn't been used in several years be removed from my credit report.  I have prepared to explain all of this to whomever asks on Thursday.  I am positive that once I show them what's up with this report, and they see that I am doing what's necessary to fix the problems, then I will be "out of the water" in that regard, at least.

  

I had to punish my oldest daughter, Nicolette, last week for failing her science test, which is one of her BETTER subjects, and for inviting some "beady-head" boy to "play with her breasts".  Yes, folks, you heard me right!  Apparently, this boy invited her to do something equally vulgar, and she, in turn, tells him that, in the words of the teacher who, thankfully, witnessed all of this before anything happened, "you can touch "these", but you can't touch anything "down there".  Now, you know I had to apply a good old-fashioned "N'awlins Beat-Down" on that gal!  Then, I had to talk to Nikki.  You know, that "talk" every parent dreads.  I am a type of person who will "go there" if I have to in order to make my point.  The conversation was uncomfortable for her, I am sure, but I had to tell her.  You see, I feel that today, too many adults and parents "assume" that their children know certain things, when in actuality, many parents never sit down and talk to their children about sex, drugs, alcohol, peer pressure, or whatever!  Then, when kids reach an age where their hormones are going hay wire, and they begin to get into all sorts of trouble, adults and parents are quick to blame the kids, when in actuality, it is the parents' fault for not teaching those children what is necessary! 

Now I know many of you (and I have felt this way, too) out there may be saying, "Oh, that's not true!  So-and-so's parents were good to their children!  They gave those kids EVERYTHING!!!  Those children were just no good and worthless"!  But I have TALKED to many children and young adults, and folks, many kids DON'T HAVE A CLUE.  And "knowing" about the dangers doesn't in any way mean that a person UNDERSTANDS the consequences of the dangers.  Young people always think like this; "It can't happen to me"!  Sadly, they grow up that way, simply because a parent or an adult was unwilling to sit down and feel uncomfortable for a few minutes, and teach their children and give them essential information that is INVALUABLE, and that may stop their kids from making bad choices down the road.  Nicolette didn't have a clue; that's why she did what she did.  I was hoping that I wouldn't have to have this talk with her so early, but this incident showed me that for her own safety, I couldn't wait another day. 

For those who feel that "youcan tell a child right, but  they are still going to do  what they want to do,  regardless", I say to that parent or adult that you are absolutely right.  That child will face the day where they will have to make that choice for themselves.  But guess what?  There is no room for you or I to be blamed if the child made the wrong choice, because you did what you were supposed to do.  I teach my children that there are consequences to every action.  I share with them various consequences to certain situations.  For instance, I told Nikki that if she has a child for a man that she doesn't love, or who doesn't love her, she will have to face raising a child that she may not have wanted, and who will be a constant reminder to her of a careless action she made the choice to take part in 18 years before.  But she will never be able to say that "nobody told me", because I know that I did.  And because she made her decision, she will have to live with the consequences of her choice.  That's reality, people.  My mom taught me right from wrong.  I made choices for my own life, some were good, some were not so good.  But I was taught to accept full responsibility for the consequences of my actions.  I had no room to blame anyone, because my mother told me what I needed to know.  Though it is extremely difficult, my husband and I are striving to teach our children everything we think they need to know.  Every decision I made in my life wasn't a poor one,  and I feel that this is because my mom laid a firm foundation.  Matthew and I are laying a firm foundation for our daughters as well.

So, as punishment, she will not be going to one of the two big end-of-the-year field trips the school is having.  And I also told her that if anything happens like this again between now and May (her birthday), she won't be getting that party I promised her.  I hate punishing children.  But Nicolette pulled her grades up this semester, and if she keeps it up, she may actually pass to the sixth grade.  I'm not being mean, folks, I just want her to succeed!

Well, I think I've rambled on enough.....I've gotta get to work, folks!  Bye, y'all!

    

P.S.  Oh, and as for that "beady-head" boy....let's just say that the boy's father went "LOCO" at the school......  

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I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I will not have any trouble with THAT boy for the rest of the year!!!    LOL LOL LOL!!!!!